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Beth Martin's avatar

Love this piece Sue. Beautifully written and really captures atmosphere and emotions. I’m also intrigued as a Harpenden girl myself as to whether I may have known Tim in an earlier life!

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Sue Reed's avatar

Tim is next to me! He lived on Tuffnells Way - he's asking what school you went to…🤔

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Roselle Angwin's avatar

Oh what a beautiful story! And I can relate to lots of it (esp the early Stonehenge festivals before 'they' ringed it with wire).

Lovely man. Lovely woman. So pleased for you.

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Sue Reed's avatar

Hi Roselle thanks for reading and saying hi! So many great memories from those early Stonehenges! The Tibetan Ukrainian Mountain Troupe, opium fudge......well met!!

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Roselle Angwin's avatar

Oh yes! And I got a lift once (hitching) with Gong and Mother Gong - remember them?

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Sue Reed's avatar

Yes! I do remember Gong - in fact, my kids were in a band that supported Gong up here in Alston only a few years ago - it was a tiny gig, and my mate Janet (also at Stonehenge who used to put on the blue Moon Festivals up here - runs Tat for Tiber now) hosted the whole of Gong including Daevid Allen at her gaff.

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Roselle Angwin's avatar

How amazing. I love these interconnections!

And thank you for subscribing - reciprocated!

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Beth Martin's avatar

That is SO funny! I lived at number 4 Tuffnells and my mum was friends with his mum and we knew the family. I had an inkling it might be him but I only remember him as being about 12 when. he looked rather different (I'm a bit older)! I think he had one sister called Katy, can't remember the other name but I think my sister Ruth was friendly with her. We both live in Granada now and sadly my parents have died and the house was sold in 2021 - they'd lived there over 50 years. My sister and I both went to St Georges (as he asked...). Am sure he won't remember me!

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Sue Reed's avatar

He does vaguely remember you! His sisters are Kate and Jenny. I went to teacher training college with Kate - that's how I met Tim!

Did you know the Tansleys? Kate married Jeremy Tansley. Small World!

Sorry to hear about your parents. What were their names? Margaret (Tim's mum) is still alive but now lives near Derby, near Jenny. She is still in touch with John Bristow who used to live at number 5.

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Beth Martin's avatar

John and Lilian Martin. Remember me and them to Margaret …

I think the “rebrand”’works well. Previous name didn’t really promote the content in an immediate way. I enjoy what you write. I’ve been really blocked since finishing a creative writing diploma. Very slowly working towards a Substack!

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Sue Reed's avatar

Yes, I will remember them to Margaret.

So happy you like the rebrand.

Just write! ✍️ Anything!! 😉

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Lesley's avatar

What a lovely story. It’s so good to know a bit more about you

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thanks Lesley, I'm glad you enjoyed the read.

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Satya Robyn's avatar

What a beautiful story! ❣️

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thank you. He's sitting next to me in the car as we speak, having driven me a hospital appointment ❤️

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Camille Brightsmith's avatar

This made my day!!!! Happy Valentine's day to both of you. I am sure you have had to work at it, but the love is coming through!

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Sue Reed's avatar

Hi Camille - definitely peaks and troughs, but on the whole the graph shows an upwards curve!! Thanks for your lovely comment.

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Molly's avatar

What an amazing story. Thank you for sharing it. You look and no doubt are so happy together. And it has stood the test of time.

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thanks Molly! (Love your name).

We have our moments, but yes, definitely stood the test of time.

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Molly's avatar

I thought you would. By the way I’m Mike Slade on X! Your writing has inspired me to try this out, but I’m not sure it will work out, but we’ll see.

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Sue Reed's avatar

aha! I see, so are you Mike in real life and Molly's the dog?

Just shout if I can help - I find this a brilliant platform to blog on - for me, it serves as a place to try out some memoir and nature writing, and use it as a newsletter for my work.

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Molly's avatar

Yes, I’m Mike in real life, Molly dog is real and really blind too. I’ve a thing that the dog can say things I can’t which may enable me to be a little more frank on certain matters. I’m not sure what those certain matters are nowadays. Ten years ago they would have been different. I’m not a great one for keeping diaries, journals, blogs etc. My happy place is Blipfoto which is a really lovely friendly place where most members post a daily photo and comment. Some of us are brilliant photographers with expensive equipment. I mainly use my phone but I do have DSLRs. I quite like to record something interesting to me each day and it works well. I’ve met a fellow blipper in Humshaugh, but they can be on the other side of the world. I’m not finding Substack that easy to use, I’m not sure what the difference is between a post and a blog entry (haven’t even got the terminology yet either!) and I’m not sure how regular this will be. I suppose I need to commit myself to it and that would be helpful. Thank you for your encouragement.

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Feasts and Fables's avatar

What a beautiful tribute to love. Gorgeous

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thank you, of course we do bicker and have our ups and downs, but I do feel loved & 40 years together is cause to pop a cork in my book!

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Feasts and Fables's avatar

Ups and downs, life's rollercoaster ... but the ride is the thing!

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Lesley Bungay's avatar

Congratulations on 40 yrs together, Sue, 💗I love reading about your life, although this morning is tricky as my glasses seem to have steamed up 🥹

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Sue Reed's avatar

Ah, bless you, Lesley. Thanks for your kind words xx

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Bee Lilyjones's avatar

Well reading this piece has made my morning. Thank you, Sue.

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Sue Reed's avatar

What a lovely comment to receive - you've made my morning, too 🙏

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Emma Gibbs De Oliveira's avatar

Awww Sue what a beautiful love story. What a life lived full. I can’t wait to hear more of the stories as your autobiography starts to take shape. You are a story oracle 😍❤️

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thanks dearest Emma. So much more that could be said, too. All in good time!

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Emma Gibbs De Oliveira's avatar

I'm in for the long run :)

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Sue Gollins's avatar

What moving and honest piece this is. I have tears in my eyes. I think you have reminded me of my teens and early twenties. I don't like to revisit that time as I feel quite ashamed of how I behaved. I was very lost and felt unloved but didn't know how to deal with it.

Thank you for sharing your story.

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Sue Reed's avatar

Oh Sue, my heart goes out to you. What a similar place we have come from. It was learning that it was not my fault that set me on the road to recovery, that and writing my story. And now I am sharing it, and speaking it, I no longer feel shame. I'd love to talk to you more!

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Harry Watson's avatar

This is such a lovely story Sue, and what a 'moody' photo of a young Tim!

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thanks Harry, he's a good looking man!

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Harry Watson's avatar

Awwwww ....

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Lyndsey Whiteside's avatar

This sounds wild and free to me! Lovely piece again! ❤️🙌

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thanks Lyndsey - now added a voice over. It felt important to say it out loud!

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James Lee's avatar

Such an amazing journey, Sue. 😇😇

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thanks James. It's been a wild ride!

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James Lee's avatar

Sounds like it! ✨️

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Sue Reed's avatar

Just added a voiceover - felt important to speak these words out loud! Big step, speaking my truth.

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Sue Reed's avatar

Thanks Nicola. I'd love to write a longer memoir one day.

I decided after posting it to add the voice over. It felt important to speak this truth out loud.

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